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My second day in Mendoza, I took three different buses before I was finally on the right one home. Even before arriving in Argentina, I had (and still have) a notoriously bad sense of direction. I’m used to not worrying about my data usage and pulling out my phone to look up directions. However, on just my second day, the phone I brought to use as my Argentinian phone broke, I didn’t have an international plan for my US phone, which was with me, so I relied on frequent stops at coffee shops with free WiFi and a physical map. Google maps told me to take the T12 home; I waited for 30 minutes, but the T12 never came. I gave up and got on a random bus, hoping for the best. It was going in the opposite direction. I got off and asked some locals which bus to take. They showed me, but it was the wrong one as well. Thankfully, the bus driver knew which bus I needed to take, so after close to an hour and a half of wandering around Mendoza close to nightfall, I was finally on my way home. Two weeks later, I find out the T12 is actually the G12.

In my first few weeks abroad, I thought my biggest issue would be the language barrier since Argentina is a Spanish-speaking country. It didn’t even occur to me that navigation would trump that in the beginning. I am now five weeks into my program; it took me four weeks to figure out exactly which buses take me home, which take me to class, and which take me downtown. I carried my map for the first three weeks, feeling like the ultimate tourist when that was what I was trying not to be. Walking helped. I was able to see and explore the city, orienting myself so I knew where I was in relation to other locations. Mendoza is a grid and I can now proudly say that I know approximately a 25-block radius.

A highlight came when a woman asked me for directions. I had no idea where she was going, but I must have looked comfortable enough for her to assume that I did. Learning a new city is challenging and uncomfortable, but the first time you are able to travel without getting lost is one of the most rewarding feelings.

Zoe Kaldor

ARGENTINA – IFSA: MENDOZA UNIVERSITIES PROGRAM, 2018 FALL

Zoe Kaldor is an International Studies and Strategic Communication double major. She is studying abroad with IFSA-Butler in Mendoza, Argentina. Originally from New York, DU’s study abroad program was one of the reasons Zoe chose to attend DU. She specifically chose to study abroad in Argentina because she wants to improve her Spanish skills and experience a new culture, for she believes it is so important in an increasingly global society to be able to communicate in languages besides English as well as experience different ways of life. Zoe is an avid traveler and loves to explore new places; she is excited she gets to do both.

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“Do you want to just park the car and walk in with me? I could use some help getting my boarding pass,” I asked my mom.

I saw her eyes reflected in the rearview mirror as she looked ahead at the traffic. There were red rims circling her eyes, yet I hadn’t seen her shed one tear. She shook her head no at me while staring ahead.

“It will probably just be faster if I drop you off and let Dad and Mary help you,” she said. “I don’t want to pay those damn charges just for a couple of minutes.”

I nodded in response to this and recognized her reluctance to express emotion. Our family rarely expressed emotion or love through affection, much less touch. We were raised British in that way; always keeping one degree of separation between another person.

She maneuvered through the drop-off area at the airport, pulling up at the United airline section. People’s eyes were alert as they scanned their surroundings to make sure they didn’t hit another car. My mother’s hand laid on the horn so that she was ready to warn anyone of invading her personal space.

She put the car in park as she finally found an open space. As the doors unlocked, I walked out to an eruption of noise around me. Horns were honking and people were crying as they said goodbye to their loved ones. I had been protected from this in the comfort of the car. The trunk opened and I went to grab my 75-liter backpack, but my mom stopped me, putting her soft hand on my arm. “Wait to grab that, Annie, so that I can say goodbye to you now.”

I looked into her blue eyes and for the first time understood the fear that she must be feeling. She was sending her 20-year-old daughter off to India for 5 months. She had done this herself when she left her home in England at 18 to pursue her nursing degree. She had said goodbye to her own mother with no idea of when they would see each other next. The years between her and I transcended time as we stood outside of Dulles airport, holding each other tightly.

As she hugged me goodbye, her hands gripped my back in a way that I had never felt before. She whispered in my ear a goodbye, causing me to feel the tears radiating from her and making my own arise. We separated simultaneously, realizing the moment was bound to end or pause, for the time being.

After flying from IAD to Toronto, I boarded the flight to Delhi. I was surprisingly calm as I showed them my visa and boarded the stuffy plane. I instantly fell asleep as soon as I got to my seat and slept until 6 am (ET). When I woke up, I decided to re-watch Greta Gerwig’s film Lady Bird. This turned out to be a horrible but beautiful idea, as I was sobbing by the end of the movie, reminiscing on when my sister Mary and I saw it in the third row of a San Diego movie theatre.

I also realized that the story of my mother and I mirrored Gerwig’s plot in the film. The protagonist, Lady Bird, and her mother are two women with strong, independent personalities, which causes most of their disputes. They constantly bicker and scream at each other, yet will be arguing about the same exact thing the entire time and not even realize it. By the end of the film (apologies for the spoiler alert), Lady Bird calls her mother crying after her first night in college and asks her if she ever felt this underlying sadness when driving around their hometown. It then cuts to both Lady Bird and her mother driving separately, and the audience is able to see how similar these two women are.

I apologize for that long synopsis of Lady Bird (which everyone should have seen by now), but I think it illustrates how real this relationship is with young women and their mothers. I have taken for granted my mother’s support and love, but as soon as I leave her, I realize that she has constantly been there for me, even when I thought dying my hair blue was a good idea.

The first night in India has been filled with loneliness, confusion, and fear, but just knowing that my mother did the same thing when she was my age makes everything easier. So thank you, Mom, for being the best role model I could have ever asked for. I love and miss you.

Anne Berset

INDIA – IFSA: MENDOZA UNIVERSITIES PROGRAM, 2018 FALL

Anne Berset is double majoring in Creative Writing and Psychology as well as a minor in Philosophy. She is studying at the University of Hyderabad in India for the Fall term, where she will be taking philosophy and political science courses. She hopes to gain a new perspective on culture, politics, and religion while abroad. Anne loves to watch films, go on hikes, and spend time with animals.

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