Home is Where–and What–You Make It

After having been in classes for half of a semester now, the life that I have built for myself here in Japan is slowly, but surely, establishing itself as normal. 

I have a routine now and am able to navigate Kyoto alone as if I had lived here my whole life. I go out with friends, do my homework, and exist as if I was living in Denver again, only this time, across the world. 

I never thought I would be able to assimilate into life here so quickly. I still struggle with things, but I am not nearly as hopeless as I thought I would be. I will say, having friends from home here with me has most definitely helped speed up the process. We have all struggled with the same things and helped each other out, which would be a completely different story had I came completely alone. But I think, still, that I have done pretty well so far.

Classes are actually kind of fun! They are difficult, especially the ones I have that are not in English, but I have greatly enjoyed the people I have met and almost mundane normalcy of it all. I even have my study spaces and cafes I frequent near campus (let me know if you want a cafe/sweet treat review post!)

The way classes work here is extremely difficult than how I am used to in Denver. For instance, our classes start at weird times of the hour–such as 2:55 or 12:15–and are only an hour and a half long. In Denver, though, all of my classes started on the hour and always ended at either half past or 10 minutes before the hour, so I had to get used to that adjustment. I still forget when classes end sometimes, especially my evening classes, but I will get it eventually. 

 I also only have each class once a week, other than my extensive language courses. I’m so used to having each class twice a week back home that it felt like years had passed since my last class when I first started classes here. It is also weird to have a blocked out lunch period where no classes are occurring. I like not having to block out my lunch plans when registering; they are already established in our schedule. I don’t know why America doesn’t do this, but if any politicians are reading this (I doubt anyone is but hey, a girl can dream), bring this up in your next policy meeting. It is so much more convenient, especially if you have a big test or homework coming up and have no room in your schedule to block time out for it. 

I have also thoroughly enjoyed the convenience that is public transport in Japan. I can go across Kyoto for under $10 by simply taking the train or bus, which is so much cheaper and different than many places in the United States. My hometown doesn’t even have any kind of public transportation infrastructure, and the one in Denver is, unfortunately, known for being not one of the best, so I never truly understood how beneficial having train infrastructure is. 

And not only is the train infrastructure so nice, but I have now been exposed to the wonders of a walkable city. A 30-minute walk would sound miserable to Denver me, but Japan me is saying “that’s nothing!”. One of our first days here, we went out for drinks and karaoke and missed the last bus, causing us to take on a two hour walk back home at 2 am with ease. Needless to say, after that, I can walk any distance back home now. 

It’s not all completely normal though. I do miss being in the same time zones as my loved ones; my day starts as theirs ends, one sun rises, causing another sun to set. Having to schedule calls and meetings based on my 15-hour time difference is difficult, and I can’t wait until I am back on the same continent as my friends and family for that reason alone. 

I crave food from back in the United States constantly. While Japan has delicious cultural cuisine, sometimes I just miss a good, spicy taco or some cornbread. There are lots of international foods to try, like Indian or Vietnamese food, which are both incredibly delicious, but I can never truly fight off my American mind craving a burger. Japan and America do burgers differently, and they just don’t hit the same. Same with American candy and treats, sometimes I want a bag of hot Cheetos or Nerds and just can’t find them. 

Also, sillily enough, I miss the size of paper back in America. Paper here is huge! It’s almost as if two American sized sheets are stuck together in one big sheet. Almost all of my assignments need to be folded to fit into my folder, and I can almost never write on it if it is fully laid out in front of me. I like having small paper, it is so much easier to carry around and write on. I never thought paper would be a culture shock, but alas. 

Some things are still the same, such as the way I still go to cafes too often or watch T.V. or YouTube when I study or eat, but overall, my life has been changing in both the best and worst ways. 

This could go on for hours if I wrote down every single thing I miss or have adjusted to, so I’ll cut it here, but I have shaped a little life here. While it may not be my permanent home, it is my home for the moment. I might as well make the most of it and do what I can to make my days as normal for myself as I can. 

Torii gate in Uji, Kyoto ٩( ‘ω’ )و

THE WORLD IS YOUR OYSTER

Arriving in Dunedin, New Zealand • 6 July 202410 July 2024

How does one prepare for a months-long solo adventure? What is the proper way to plan in advance? Rather, should you plan in advance? Should you pack less? More? What is the first thing I am meant to do upon arrival? These are just several questions that were racing through my mind in the many weeks and days before I officially departed from the US. Given the countless directions that these questions have taken my mind, the most efficient conclusion I have drawn is to just catch the current wherever it may take me. There are no correct answers through this entire process.

Forcing myself to be alone and navigate every day without any type of backboard to bounce off of has produced too unique of feelings to explain unless encountered by yourself. However, I can elaborate on what it has taught me and the mindset shifts it has allowed me to embrace. For lack of a better word, walking around in a completely new city is rather humbling. Nobody knows you nor does anybody really care to initiate any sort of unprovoked contact. Nobody approaches you to tell you where to get your food. Nobody approaches you to tell you what the best mode of transportation is. Nobody approaches you to give you any reassurance that you’ll figure it out. This has taught me what it truly feels like to be absolutely free- not in the physical sense- but mentally free in a manner I would never have experienced otherwise. I am forced, and by forced I truly mean involuntarily thrown into a completely new society where being proactive is not a recommendation.

A proverb that has been recycling itself through my mind when reacting to these everyday experiences has been “the world is your oyster.” This proverb is such a landing spot for humans in times of decision making, but what does it really imply? Truth be told, there are a myriad of interpretations and meanings derived from this proverb. It was first seen in Shakespeare’s 1602 play “The Merry Wives of Windsor” and Aliya Uteuova, an outstanding journalist graduate student from the University of Maine, also took part in this analysis. After several interviews and exploration from sources of different backgrounds, she drew two conclusions. What was most commonly shared was the idea that “opportunities await for those people who take advantage of them and make opportunities for that to happen,” which was also compounded with Aliya’s own opinion that “the gray, unattractive body is delicious and beautiful to those who understand the worth of this calcium and iron rich protein.”

When deciphering upon these judgments for myself, I have begun to apply them and hope to consistently apply them during my time abroad. I can choose to call myself a fool for traveling to an island completely solo, or I can choose to view this as one of the greatest opportunities that life has ever given me. What I do know is how beautiful the opportunities are that await even though it seems as if I am trapped in a lonely abyss. Every uncomfortable moment yields such profound newness. Embracing this, alongside the lack of direction, has enabled me to take full control over a life so fortunate to live as I could ever have hoped for. There is insecurity to not knowing exactly what awaits, however the mindsets I have begun to apply consist as follows:

  1. Walking to events alone is OK- you will meet the people you are meant to meet, do not force these interactions because those around you that are meant to enter your realm will enter your realm. Meeting people to navigate all of the opportunities is not an if, but a when.
  2. I know that I will have less “fun” than those who have immediate connections & people to exchange energy with. However, my “fun” will ultimately come from finding my true self along this journey and embracing the long-term growth that comes from not having immediate social outlets.
  3. It is cliche to say that uncomfortability breeds growth. It is cliche to say that change is difficult but beneficial. However, cliches are overused because they. are. true. Everything that is occurring on this journey has been navigated by somebody else, and they have all succeeded in some way.

My time here in Dunedin is finite which only amplifies my excitement waking up every day knowing the opportunities that I will choose to let guide me. Albert Einstein shares the message that “wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it.” Meeting every opportunity when provided to me during my time here is exactly the path that will further me towards a heightened state of wisdom to wield in a world so ever-changing and unpredictable. The ability to learn this wisdom cannot be accomplished without failure, which is why I must proceed with committing myself to this unpredictable journey!