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the LITTLE things

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11 July 2024 – 21 July 2024 • Two Weeks in New Zealand

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This week’s blog will look into the LITTLE things. I will discuss valuing my day-to-day choices, appreciating the things so easily taken for granted, and the why behind the emphasis on “LITTLE.”

Day-to-day choices

My intention is to share my perspective, not to present it as absolute truth. Determining how to allocate your energy each day can be assigned to two main categories. The first is that of your everyday needs. For example, eating, drinking, hygiene, ensuring personal safety, and a form of income to provide for those items. The second, and one that I hope to dissect further, is the remaining usage of your habitual energy and the significance in putting it towards the LITTLE things.

A thought that I have had for quite some time that has cemented itself over the past two weeks is the beauty in the LITTLE things. The majority of my everyday actions appear to be inconsequential. How could something so small, (i.e. holding the door for someone, the extra 20 minutes of sleep, asking more questions, expressing unprovoked gratitude, etc…) matter so much? The fact of the matter is that making the conscious decision to consistently make the more favorable LITTLE decision will have the biggest impact. These frequent “inconsequential” decisions are those that truly define us and establish our character.

Living alone and navigating entirely new routines, relationships, education, and basic well-being has better allowed me to see the cause-and-effect of the LITTLE things. The physical act of environment change has given me the opportunity to isolate every single choice I make and see the energy reciprocate itself. As basic as drinking water instead of sugary drinks, or as cliche as starting each day thinking about how I can get better. Even crazier is the earth shattering task of talking to somebody new! No matter the decision, it seems reasonable to conclude that there is usually one that is more favorable in some way, whether it be physical benefit, social fulfillment, or simply keeping your mental health in line. Not that living life should be treated as a game, but I have started to see the benefits of subconsciously calculating every decision with the intent of it yielding the more positive result.

The past two weeks I have come to learn the power of how energy operates in my life. It has shown me that everything matters. Committing yourself to doing the LITTLE things right is what will guide the way I am perceived and more importantly the way I perceive myself for the rest of my life.

Final Note

Another form of LITTLE energy that exists in everyday life does not come from the choices we make, but the content of each day that is so easily taken for granted. Taking the time to truly cherish the present has begun to shape where I receive larger areas of fulfillment. It’s the sunrises and sunsets. It’s the extra conversation you never expected to have. It’s the phone calls with loved ones. It’s the miracle that is life that comes with everyday, and it is those areas that, if stripped away from us in an instant, we would beg for their return. We wouldn’t beg for another two hours scrolling on our phones, but perhaps the ability to go on that hike. We wouldn’t beg to hide in our room and watch the television instead of chatting with your family. We wouldn’t choose to be sitting at home instead of in a random house in New Zealand.

How incredible is it to be existing in a space every day where I am surrounded by so many different cultures, perspectives, humors, such lust for life, and most importantly by people who seek to embrace this journey with me. It’s the LITTLE things.

THE WORLD IS YOUR OYSTER

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Arriving in Dunedin, New Zealand • 6 July 2024 –10 July 2024

How does one prepare for a months-long solo adventure? What is the proper way to plan in advance? Rather, should you plan in advance? Should you pack less? More? What is the first thing I am meant to do upon arrival? These are just several questions that were racing through my mind in the many weeks and days before I officially departed from the US. Given the countless directions that these questions have taken my mind, the most efficient conclusion I have drawn is to just catch the current wherever it may take me. There are no correct answers through this entire process.

Forcing myself to be alone and navigate every day without any type of backboard to bounce off of has produced too unique of feelings to explain unless encountered by yourself. However, I can elaborate on what it has taught me and the mindset shifts it has allowed me to embrace. For lack of a better word, walking around in a completely new city is rather humbling. Nobody knows you nor does anybody really care to initiate any sort of unprovoked contact. Nobody approaches you to tell you where to get your food. Nobody approaches you to tell you what the best mode of transportation is. Nobody approaches you to give you any reassurance that you’ll figure it out. This has taught me what it truly feels like to be absolutely free- not in the physical sense- but mentally free in a manner I would never have experienced otherwise. I am forced, and by forced I truly mean involuntarily thrown into a completely new society where being proactive is not a recommendation.

A proverb that has been recycling itself through my mind when reacting to these everyday experiences has been “the world is your oyster.” This proverb is such a landing spot for humans in times of decision making, but what does it really imply? Truth be told, there are a myriad of interpretations and meanings derived from this proverb. It was first seen in Shakespeare’s 1602 play “The Merry Wives of Windsor” and Aliya Uteuova, an outstanding journalist graduate student from the University of Maine, also took part in this analysis. After several interviews and exploration from sources of different backgrounds, she drew two conclusions. What was most commonly shared was the idea that “opportunities await for those people who take advantage of them and make opportunities for that to happen,” which was also compounded with Aliya’s own opinion that “the gray, unattractive body is delicious and beautiful to those who understand the worth of this calcium and iron rich protein.”

When deciphering upon these judgments for myself, I have begun to apply them and hope to consistently apply them during my time abroad. I can choose to call myself a fool for traveling to an island completely solo, or I can choose to view this as one of the greatest opportunities that life has ever given me. What I do know is how beautiful the opportunities are that await even though it seems as if I am trapped in a lonely abyss. Every uncomfortable moment yields such profound newness. Embracing this, alongside the lack of direction, has enabled me to take full control over a life so fortunate to live as I could ever have hoped for. There is insecurity to not knowing exactly what awaits, however the mindsets I have begun to apply consist as follows:

  1. Walking to events alone is OK- you will meet the people you are meant to meet, do not force these interactions because those around you that are meant to enter your realm will enter your realm. Meeting people to navigate all of the opportunities is not an if, but a when.
  2. I know that I will have less “fun” than those who have immediate connections & people to exchange energy with. However, my “fun” will ultimately come from finding my true self along this journey and embracing the long-term growth that comes from not having immediate social outlets.
  3. It is cliche to say that uncomfortability breeds growth. It is cliche to say that change is difficult but beneficial. However, cliches are overused because they. are. true. Everything that is occurring on this journey has been navigated by somebody else, and they have all succeeded in some way.

My time here in Dunedin is finite which only amplifies my excitement waking up every day knowing the opportunities that I will choose to let guide me. Albert Einstein shares the message that “wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it.” Meeting every opportunity when provided to me during my time here is exactly the path that will further me towards a heightened state of wisdom to wield in a world so ever-changing and unpredictable. The ability to learn this wisdom cannot be accomplished without failure, which is why I must proceed with committing myself to this unpredictable journey!