Category: Africa

Damay ñibbi

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“Damay ñibbi” = rough translation of “I am going home” in Wolof. 

My last week in Senegal was extremely eventful. I spent the first half writing all of my reports and formatting my presentations. On Wednesday, we spent 10 hours at school doing all of our final presentations; with 10 students who each had three presentations set to last 10 minutes each, it took us a while. Thursday, we went to school and ate lunch with all of our host moms. Friday, we said goodbye to the center staff and then went shopping at the market for souvenirs. 

On Saturday, the last morning of my full day in Senegal, the other students and I all woke up at 6:30am to watch the sunrise at the beach. We sat on the rocks and then held hands in a long line as we ran into the ocean. The cold plunge was frigid and the perfect way to start our last day. The rest of the day, I hung out with my family and then said goodbye to friends who were leaving that day. As I hugged people goodbye, I was struck by the fact that there is a very real possibility I may never see these people again. I felt tears prick my eyes as my friends got in taxis and pulled away. 

I went back home. Just as I thought my day was wrapping up, my host brother Mouhamed asked if I wanted to come to a Senegalese wedding! Even though it was 9pm, I was leaving the next day at 7am, and I still wasn’t fully packed, of course I said yes. When else would I get this opportunity?! I attended the pre-ceremony reception at the wedding, full of speeches and shared dinner and music and dancing. I said goodbye to my family and then took a taxi home. 

At 7am, everyone in my house was still asleep. I left quietly, taking my bags to school where I was meeting a few of the other students. We took a bus to the airport and then flew to New York, where my connecting flight to DC promptly got canceled because of snow. My out-of-this-world amazing dad and sister drove up four hours to come and get me. I slept the majority of the drive and returned home around 4am. 

Today is my first day back in the U.S., and I am so happy to be home but I already miss parts of Senegal. I feel different—changed, even if just slightly. I feel a desire to share my food with everyone I meet and I pick up everything with my right hand. I feel SO cold in the chilly air. The fact that I can fill up my water bottle in a water fountain is shocking and I’m surprised when I see toilet paper. 

And now I’m home! At least, one of my homes. Maryland is my first home, but Colorado and DU are my homes too. Paris, where I lived for five years when I was younger, is also a home of mine. Now, so is Senegal. I can picture everything so vividly and I will absolutely be returning someday; it’s just a matter of when and how. 

Only 3% of students who study abroad choose to go to sub-Saharan Africa. The only region chosen less is the Middle East. There were 10 students in my program in Senegal as compared to the dozens or hundreds of students who are studying with my friends that chose to study in Europe or Japan or New Zealand. 

Some of the students in my Senegal program would tell you studying abroad in sub-Saharan Africa isn’t that different from elsewhere, and we shouldn’t be told we are “brave” or that our families are “proud” of us for studying here. And it’s true; I did have a lot of amenities and similarities between my program and my friends’ programs in other countries. I lived in comfort and safety and could live relatively similarly to my life in the U.S.

But let’s face it: it is different. Objectively, studying abroad in a sub-Saharan African country is different. Most other students studying abroad didn’t have intermittent diarrhea for over two months. Most always have access to a working toilet. Most don’t take bucket showers every night. Most don’t live with a host family who speaks a language they have just begun learning upon arrival in the country. Most don’t get proposed to by men on the streets nearly every week. Most have AC when the weather surpasses 100 degrees. Most don’t get stranded for three hours when the driver they’ve already paid for decides to pick up another group before them. Most don’t come home to a random sheep in their kitchen. Most don’t wear pants over their shorts when leaving the house to play frisbee because their host mom won’t let them wear shorts. Most don’t get called “Toubab” and asked for money wherever they go when they are the only white person within view. Most don’t call their boyfriend in tears because some random man in the street grabbed her hand and now his hand isn’t the last one she’s held. 

Now, I don’t want to scare anyone off from studying abroad in Senegal, or another sub-Saharan African nation, or another more atypical place. I have had amazing opportunities I think very few other students have had in their abroad experiences, and I would take that over traveling around Europe any day. 

(Take this with a grain of salt too—I did have an opportunity to travel around Europe with my family when I lived in France during middle school and the first two years of high school. I don’t feel like I’m missing out because I already have visited nearly every place I see my friends in Europe posting about on Instagram. I have visited 25 countries and now have lived in three. If this is an experience you want and you haven’t had yet, go for it!)

But if you do choose Europe or somewhere else “easier,” let it be a conscious choice about the experience you want. Decide that you want to travel where it’s safe and easy, that you want to see numerous countries and try new foods, that you want a whole myriad of languages in your experience. But make that choice. Don’t choose Europe by default; choose it because it’s what you actually want to have that study abroad experience. Even for a moment, entertain the idea of doing something different. If you don’t choose it, that’s completely fine, but at least actually consider it. My best advice is to consciously choose where you want to go based on the experience you want to have. 

I wanted to have the experience that I knew I’d get if I went to Senegal, and boy did I get it! It’s been a crazy almost four months, and I am so beyond happy this is the study abroad experience I chose. So as my experience is so fresh in my mind, I’m going to finish my Senegal blog series with a list of what I’ve loved, appreciated, and already miss about Senegal. 

  1. Hearing the call to prayer from my neighborhood mosque five times a day 
  2. Eating dinner around the bowl with my host family every night 
  3. Speaking in Wolof with my host family’s housekeeper and expanding the subjects we can talk about as I learn new vocabulary and grammatical structures 
  4. Every time I greet someone on the street in Wolof and they smile and go, “oh, you speak Wolof!” after I’ve only said a few basic phrases 
  5. Getting clothes made in exactly the style I want with fabric I picked out for approximately $10 a piece 
  6. Having a beach day/afternoon whenever I want 
  7. Watching movies in French at the movie theater 
  8. Participating in the Muslim holiday Mawlid (called Gamou in Senegal) until nearly 5am
  9. Learning how the Senegalese marriage process works in both a civil and a religious sense while at my internship 
  10. Taking the train by myself
  11. Speaking French every single day for four months, oftentimes speaking in English for the first time all day when calling people back home 
  12. So many long walks to see all so many neighborhoods in Dakar
  13. Children giving me hugs after I wave to them 
  14. Taking classes in French about subjects I’m interested in 
  15. Comparing Senegalese and American cultures when talking with my host mom 
  16. Getting to do an adventure every day 
  17. $2 taxi rides 
  18. 60 cent ice cream 
  19. So many delicious pastries
  20. The absolute kindest people. So many genuine, immediately friendly people that were welcoming as soon as I said “Salaam maalekum”
  21. Telling my family, friends, and boyfriend back home about all of my experiences and hearing their reactions
  22. Going to a party at the African Renaissance Monument, the tallest statue in all of Africa

And for the last time… 

Ba ci kanam / À bientôt / See you soon, 

Caitlin

Toubabs in Touba

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This past weekend, a few of my friends and I hatched a plan: we were going to Touba. Touba is the religious city of the Mourides (a sect of Islam) and home to arguably the most beautiful mosque in Senegal. Considering the importance of religion in Senegal and that my host family are Mourides, I really wanted to see it! I was very happy some of my friends shared the sentiment so we could all have the adventure together. 

We decided to make our excursion a day trip since Touba is a city without any hotels. From previous travel experiences, we learned that the Dem Dikk (which literally translates into English as “go, come”) buses are by far the most timely, reliable, and comfortable. Therefore, our plan was to take the early morning bus to Touba (two and a half hours away) and return on the afternoon bus. It would be a lot of travel for only about five hours in the city, but we were really excited to see it. 

However, only my friend Ameya and I got tickets for the bus before it filled up. Our friends Izzy and Abby had to take the “adventurous route” hitching a ride with Abby’s host uncle who was also going to Touba. Our plan was to meet up as soon as we arrived in Touba. 

At 5:45am, I groaned at my alarm. I had fallen asleep at nearly 3am the night before, very much not on purpose. The past week or two I had spent every night tossing and turning for hours, unable to actually drift off. With only three hours of sleep and a long day ahead of me, I might be in for it—but I was excited! 

I met Ameya and we took a Yango (Senegalese equivalent of Uber) to the bus station. We got on seamlessly and found our seats without a problem. Everyone around us was wearing traditional clothing: long, flowy dresses or skirts for the women, and long tunics or pants for the men. I myself was wearing a two-piece dark purple outfit I had gotten made at the tailor the past week. The wraparound skirt reached my ankles and my top had bell sleeves that reached my wrists. 

Since Touba is a religious city, it is important to dress very modestly and cover up as much skin as possible. Mosques are even more strict. Non-Muslims are permitted to visit any day of the week but Friday, but women must wear long skirts and headscarves. I had borrowed a beautiful white “foulard” (scarf) from my host mom in order to actually go inside the Grand Mosque of Touba. 

When we arrived, we learned that in the typical Senegalese fashion, Abby’s uncle had not left on time and they were still about an hour away. Ameya and I were feeling a little hungry (for both food and adventure), so we decided to go exploring. We put on our foulards and stepped off the bus and found ourselves mere feet away from a fabric store. We started chatting with the shopkeeper, who was fascinated by the fact that Ameya is Indian and speaks Malayalam. Apparently, one of his Senegalese friends is living in India! He even FaceTimed him so his friend and Ameya could speak to each other; however, he speaks Hindi, not Malayalam. The connection was bad and everyone was a little confused and it was awesome. 

We promised the shopkeeper we would return at the end of our visit and then left to find a little supermarket. We bought some madeleines and fruit to share, and sat on someone’s steps to eat them. It was a delicious snack, and we were fueled up for adventure! Still waiting on Izzy and Abby, we walked around exploring the city. We saw shops with prayer beads, carts led by horses, and so, so many people. For the most part, it was a pleasant experience walking around because my clothing helped hide my white skin, so I got a little less attention. However, the men catcalling and children begging for money, as always, persisted. 

We made our way to the Grand Mosque. It was absolutely beautiful: four towers surrounded one tower that was even larger, and three domes on the side. We took off our shoes and started wandering around the outside, still hoping to wait for our friends. We asked (in Wolof) a few people where the women’s entrance was: “Fan la bunt bu jigéen nekk?” (This possibly translates to asking where the door—that is, itself, a female—is located, which is a little odd, but I think we got the message across). We entered the mosque and it was absolutely beautiful, full of Moroccan-style mosaics and men and women praying. 

Almost immediately, a guide found us and began giving us a tour. He explained that the entire mosque was funded by the people of Touba and is renovated often, always changing and innovating. He took us all around the grounds and inside the mosque. I’ll let you look at the photos for this part; I don’t think words can suffice!

Then, he introduced us to one of the head marabouts (Muslim religious leaders) of the mosque, who often does the call to prayer. He showed us a private tour of the sound equipment and microphone for the call to prayer and then took us into some of the back rooms and numerous conference areas. It was feeling a little sketchy following some random man inside all these locked doors, but I had Ameya with me and the dude seemed very chill. He also only spoke Wolof, so we were putting some serious effort into basic communication, but we were having fun. 

In one of the conference rooms, he told us to sit down: “toggal.” He invited us to take pictures and then we asked to take a picture all together. The three of us sat down on the couch and took a selfie. Then, he pointed to me and said he wanted a picture with me. Ameya stood up and stepped back to take a photo. Then, the marabout—one of the most religious people in a city of religious people, who has dedicated his life and livelihood to a religion in which you are never supposed to touch any woman other than your wife—put his arm around me and squeezed me towards him. His face barely a few inches from mine, he asked, “Am nga jëkker?” “Do you have a husband?” Yes, I responded. He let go, and I stood up. I looked at Ameya and she whispered “are you okay?” I nodded. He then asked to take a picture with her, which she did, but not before I warned her to tell him she has a husband. We then left as quickly as possible. 

Honestly, I should’ve felt worse about that experience than I did. However, I think I’ve been a little desensitized since being in Senegal. Random men on the street propose to me around once a week, and nearly every day I am told I am the most beautiful woman this man has ever seen or I am asked for my number within 30 seconds of chatting with anyone—a taxi driver, someone on the street, or even the pharmacist. Rarely do verbal scares become physical, but this time it did. I think I’m most shocked that someone who is supposed to be this holy religious figure would do it in such an important religious space, but I know this is more common in multiple religions than we’d like to think.

Trying to escape, we left the premises and went to the mosque’s library. It was beautiful and we befriended a woman named Fatima who gave us a quick tour. She then walked with us to return to the mosque’s grounds and visit the smaller, chapel-like buildings on the side. We entered and an older Senegalese woman invited us to pray. We knelt and put our hands palms-up in front of us. I closed my eyes and thought about all of the people, places, and experiences I am so grateful for both in Senegal and elsewhere. I am not a religious person myself, but in my opinion this is one of the best parts of religion: taking time to reflect and be grateful. I definitely want to incorporate that more into my own life, in a spiritual way if not a religious one. 

We finally, finally met up with Izzy and Abby when they arrived at the mosque! They had been at a marabout’s house (who apparently is friends with Abby’s uncle) for hours and we couldn’t wait to exchange stories. However, at this point, Ameya and I had been at the mosque for hours and were feeling a little dehydrated, hungry, and delirious. We said bye to Izzy and Abby for the moment and left to go find food. We stopped at another grocery store on our way to get lunch and a coffee called “Cafe Touba.” Therefore, we were Toubabs (foreigners) in Touba (the city) drinking Cafe Touba (the coffee). As a word association nerd, I was psyched!

Afterwards, we ended up at the fabric store again. The shopkeeper remembered us and told us to go find him in Dakar at his other shop. We promised we’d try, but for the moment we had to leave and get on the bus. I bought a new foulard for my host mom as a goodbye gift (we were leaving Senegal in three weeks) and we found Abby and Izzy on the bus. We shared snacks and stories and all fell asleep on the way home. It was a great adventure. 

And it wasn’t over! We had an hour turnaround and then went to go see the Wicked movie, which was entirely in French. I fell asleep at 2am that night, but at least my insomnia problems were cured by just how exhausted I was! As soon as my head hit the pillow, I was out.

Ba ci kanam / À bientôt / See you soon, 

Caitlin